Wednesday, February 11, 2009

What if .....


I know its been loooong since I blogged ,reasons being varied ones but yesterday came a statement and here comes the entry :D
"Hey my nanny says I look like Aishwarya Rai 'Bacchhan ' ....this is the best comment i have ever recieved "and loads more you keep hearing when you are out window-shopping (i think now i can put any compulsive shopaholoic to shame , hail ORACLE !!! )....Damn !!! WHAT IF u r no Angelina Jolie .....I believe the normal-girl-next-door is better than Angelina Jolie, Lindsay Lohan or the size zero Kareena Kapoor or whoever you think is breathtakingly beautiful or attractive.
I don’t know why women seek breast augmentation, liposuction, tummy tucks and other surgeries in their eternal quest for perfection. Okay, I confess, I would love to get my hair straightening (hair-rebonding) done once they grow long... but I would never go under the knife to transform the way I look. I don’t ever starve myself or deprive myself whenever I get those timely chocolate or ice-cream pangs/hunger pangs.
The narcissistic good looks fixation, the fair skin fixation ......this reminds me of “Use a bar of soap to wash away the dark skin that's keeping men from flocking.”- A fair friend’s advice to her dusky friend.
“Look beautiful. Here’s how you can lighten your skin tone,"- screams a silly Television commercial.
‘Fair & Lovely’ vows to transform an ugly duckling into a beautiful swan! – WTF!!!Remember that disgusting ad where a dark-complexioned girl dreams to be an airhostess? She is cursed by her parents for being a girl; a dark girl at that! Mademoiselle uses a fairness cream, and, lo and behold! There she is, a girl transformed with fair complexion, a smartly dressed airhostess who takes her parents to a swanky hotel for a grand dinner.... f*** Why are we Indians obsessed with fair skin? I am yet to read a matrimonial ad that says: “Dusky and Lovely”, “Dusky and Beautiful”, “Wanted a dusky, good looking bride.”Most people everywhere place a high premium on good looks; and good looks = fair, or so it seems. I don’t understand why sundar (beautiful) is synonymous with gori-chitti(fair).This mindset is apalling.

Then comes the size zero obsession, the cosmetic surgery makeover culture, shapely derrieres and heaving bosoms, the anorexic syndrome, "the quest for perfection…"
I want to know the importance of good looks! Does it guarantee professional success? Does it guarantee matrimonial bliss? A tall-dark-handsome husband? A hot date? Is physical perfection equal to happiness/confidence?Do good looking women have it easier than their not-so-great-looking female counterparts at work? Do women feel inadequate because they are not attractive? Who decides what’s ‘beautiful’ and what’s ‘ugly’?.I personally believe that a person's beauty is not just the external one its how one feels /herself ,its about one's persona ,the mental and spiritual beauty adding to the confidence ,its about feeling beautiful which is important and i really quantify confident people as one of the most beautiful but people think differently and the number of plastic surgeries being performed has sky-rocketed in recent years. A wide cross-section of celebrities have confessed to altering some aspect of their appearance through cosmetic surgery.
Do men like girly women ?
Do men like dumb women?
Do men prefer plain Jane ove glamorous bombshell ?
Do men like Ugly Betty ?
Do men like hot women ?
Do men like a homely women who would do their laundry and othe household chores ?
Do men really care what's on the outside ?
Do men prefer intelligence over inches ?
Umm ....What do men really want?
(I guess the male brigade like their women to be curvy and wholesome.)
So are you doomed if you’re not Angelina Jolie? Are you doomed if you’re not voluptuous? How can you boost your career with cosmetic surgery? FYI, even good looking celebrities have delivered Box Office debacles!
I believe women should refrain from -discussing their weight,complaining/ nagging,self-pity,loud make-up and jealousy of course! As one of my friends status read sometime ago girls should be classy not crazy :P
But I know for a fact that most men are suckers for beautiful women who can take their breath away ....recently my friend confessed that he was on airport and he couldn't help himself from taking his eyes off a female...lost he almost forgot that he was to fly (I always doubted him ,jeez ...hez straight :P)
Beautiful women always steal the thunder from intelligent women, okay, at least initially! They grab more eyeballs. They become the cynosure of all eyes when they saunter into a party.
Is this TRUE?
The less you care about how physically attractive you are to a man, the more a man will want you in his life.